Have you ever been in the middle of something big and yet feel you need to do more?
I’m trying to come back to reality from my deep, transformative daily virtual quest call. I slowly take my groggy self off my bed to try and complete the rest of my day - it’s 2:45.
But my body has a mind of its own. It doesn’t want to move about doing this-that-and- the-other. Try as I might, I have no choice but to succumb to my body’s signal for relaxation.
Yet, so much awaits attention!
What to do!!?
Unreasonable Expectations
As you know I’m all about living my life joyously.
With joy being my commitment, how can I joyously let go of my expectations? After all, they’re just everyday kind of expectations… cleaning my home, running to the post office, organizing my papers, doing laundry, writing on my joy book, etc.
However, those day-to-day tasks, be they physical or mental, just feel like way too much for my quest-lagged body and mind.
Yesterday it occurred to me that I’m on a quest!
If my quest weren’t virtual, I wouldn’t have expectations of doing other things. I would allow myself to fully immerse myself in this glorious, life-changing quest.
It’s funny, in an absurd kind of way, that we think we need to do more, even when that more is more than what we’re capable of.
Hey don’t misunderstand me, I’m all for stretching ourselves beyond our comfort zones. That’s not what I’m talking about here.
I’m talking about those times when your cues are loud and obvious. Where they’re practically screaming at you - what you’re doing is not what you need!
If you’re holding onto some unreasonable expectations you’ll know by the way you feel.
So, let’s begin by getting curious.
Ask yourself, is this me?
Do I…
Rush around?
Is there a push of energy that I’m accustomed to?
Carry a list that never gets completed?
Often feel I’m not enough?
Postpone fun?
Habor guilt about my past?
Feel anxious at the end of the day?
Friend, if you’re like me and you’ve been holding onto unreasonable expectations, it’s time to let them go.
Listening to and Honoring Our Cues
Since my day of realizing that I’m on a quest - a deeply, profound transformative journey (it doesn’t matter if it’s virtual or not) - and that I’m not going to go beyond what my body and mind cues are signalling for me to pay attention to, dearest, I feel great.
Going through my soulful quest is enough - period!
What relief! What freedom! What JOY! To let go of expecting more of myself than I can reasonably give at this time.
I know all too well that to deny my cues is deception, and the determined soul that I AM leaves no room for me to live in a lie.
To keep my joy commitment I must listen and honor my cues.
We all get cues, you know, those little buggers that begin with a whisper and when we don’t listen become a scream.
Our cues are our signals to listen to OURSELVES and to stop doing what we’re doing or to start doing what we need to do.
We can with curiosity and compassion joyfully listen and honor our cues.
To assist us in joyfully following our cues…