Aloha, my week took an unexpected turn.
I didn’t know that I would be helping a family member deal with his grief, that I would be talking with a friend about her husband’s grief, or that I would send messages to another family member regarding her grief.
As you can see my week has been a theme of grief.
At one time or another, we all experience our loved ones moving on to the Other Side. Regardless of our beliefs about the afterlife, we experience the absence of our loved ones presence.
I thought that some of you too may be experiencing grief or know someone who is.
With that being said, I thought I’d share, what I usually give out as a gift in a PDF format, with you. My hope is it will bring you or someone you love some comfort and peace. Please share this with anyone you think it may help.
Live From The Deceased
Dear Friend, I know only too well, the questions that can lurk when our loved one moves on.
When my first husband died I had so many questions: Is he okay? Does he know what I’m going through? Where is he? What is he doing?
I believe that losing someone so dear to me at such a young age was the catalyst that opened the way for my gift of Connecting.
Over the years, I’ve connected with hundreds of loved ones who have moved on. The treasure trove of Divine wisdom they share brings so much peace and comfort to their bereaved.
That’s why I’ve created “Live from the Deceased,” so you too may experience the peace and comfort that comes from hearing directly from your deceased loved ones.
I Really do Love Talking with DEAD People
“I talk with dead people,” I share with friends I haven’t seen in over a decade.
They share, “I have enough to deal with talking with live people.”
I respond, “I love talking with dead people. They tell you what they think you need to hear. They’re wonderful.”
My friends give me a look and I can hear their thoughts behind it, I’m glad it’s you and not me. I’m so happy it’s me too! I really do love talking with dead people.
My First Memory with a Deceased Person
I’m in bed and hear, “You’re to talk at my funeral.”
“Aunt Sue?”
She repeats, “You’re to talk at my funeral”
“I’m not talking at your funeral. I don’t know what to say. Anyway, when did you die?”
“You’re to talk at my funeral about forgiveness. You’re to tell them it’s my gift to them. You’re the one. And you will know what to say.”
“But I can’t!”
“Yes you can, and you will.”
The next day my Mom calls and tells me my Aunt Sue died the night before. (P.S. I did talk at her funeral.)
My Countless Experiences with Our Other Side Friends
That encounter with my Aunt was well over 25 years ago. Since then I’ve had countless experiences with our Other Side friends, and they never cease to surprise me. About the time I think I’ve heard it all, I discover other fascinating facts about their lives beyond the earth and their many interactions with us earthlings.
My Other Side Encounters come from Pure Experience Friend, here are some of the most frequent questions I get asked from the bereaved.
The answers come directly from the deceased. (Note: I refer to the deceased as your loved one, and I have italicized each of the deceased for clarity. Also, I’ve added some comments after the deceased quotes where I felt it would provide a deeper understanding.)
1. Is my loved one (parent, child, friend, sibling, grandparent, etc.) okay?
From my friend’s father who visits quite regularly - Dying is like taking off an old pair of clothing that doesn’t fit properly. Once you shed yourself of the clothing all the restrictions are gone. The only thing left is freedom.
A son to his mother - Dying is living without fear. When you live without fear you see all things, and people, differently. Your judgments are gone and there is just love. Without fear, only love exists.
An aunt to her niece (her niece asked specifically what she felt during her transitioning into death) – I was disoriented, yet I felt peaceful. I had a sense of traveling. I saw my husband and thought, oh, I’m dead. I understood then. We hugged, and it was the best hug we ever had. I hugged others I’d lost too. Then I rested. Love oozed everywhere.
A husband to his wife (trying to ease her pain of his passing) – Nobody has a warmer, more inviting fireplace than where I sit right now. I’m in good hands, hands that are guiding me to first of all rest, and then to explore. I’ll be exploring the inner and the outer. I’m comfortable and I’m peaceful. We had a long stretch, more than many. When you’re ready I’ll hold out my hand to welcome you. No rush, the clock still ticks. I want you to know I’ll be here with open arms.
2. Does my loved one know how I feel or what I’m doing with my life?
My mother to me – You’re to stop trying to take care of our family. It’s wasted energy. You have your own life to live.
A father to his daughter - When you get tired after you have your baby (Note: she’s pregnant and he died many years before) squeeze your hand and say, my daddy is here, and I will be.
A father to his son – You can work according to your internal time clock. Find a good strong role model that lives life in joy. Then ask yourself at least six times throughout the day, “What would my role model do?”
A mother to her son – You’re an ostrich with your head in the sand. You do this because you don’t want to see. You think of life as an obligation. You need to integrate your head and your heart.
A husband to his wife – You create followers but what you really want are friends. You need to take the time for friends.
3. Does my loved one interact with others who have passed on?
A brother to his sister – Mom and Aunt Bonnie visit me here a lot. They often want me to go along with them, but I’m content to sit on my front porch and take in the scene.
A mother to her daughter – Jean (the deceased’s sister) and I hang out most of the time. Sometimes we just sit together. She writes and I knit.
A father to his daughter – Your mother and I are together most of the time, we like it that way.
A grandmother to her granddaughter – We have great get-togethers here. (Her granddaughter asked if she sees other family members)
4. Does my loved one interact with me?
A father to his daughter – I’ll be traveling with you when you take your trip next month. I travel a lot, but now I get to travel with my baby (his daughter).
A father to his son – You are not alone. I travel with you. I help your children, and I comfort your wife.
My mom with me - I’m mopping my floor and drenching in sweat, then suddenly I feel a breeze. I look up and my ceiling fan is on. I look around and wonder if my husband turned it on, but I hear him in the garage. I then chuckle as I feel my mom.
A father to his son – You need to slow down in your truck. I don’t want to spill my coffee.
A friend to his friend – I whisper to you a lot to try and keep you from making bad business decisions.
A husband to his wife – I sit on my stool and watch you cook. (After the session she told me he had his stool and he was the cook in the family.)
5. Does my loved one have any regrets?
A mother to her daughter – I thought by keeping secrets I was protecting my family. I realize that I felt I couldn’t handle it. I couldn’t handle my emotions. It’s all right that I didn’t do better. We all make mistakes. I’m learning how to forgive myself. I’m okay now, hon.
A son to his father – If I would have known who I really was I wouldn’t have drank. I didn’t know. If only everyone on earth could realize that it’s okay, they’re okay. I wish I would have known the truth then. I’m learning so much about self-love. That’s what it’s all about: self-love. I’m happy now.
A father and mother to their daughter – We set up the competition between you and your sister. We didn’t intend to but we did. We understand that the problems that continue are due to how we raised our children. We want you to know that we take full responsibility. (Her parents were holding hands while talking and their love spilled out of them for her and each other. They were peaceful about and accepting of their mistakes.)
6. What does my loved one DO on the Other Side?
A mother and father to their daughter – We hang out in the country when your mother isn’t too busy. She’s busy decorating her fancy-snazzy home. The home of her dreams.
A brother to his brother – I drive my hot red sports car fast, after all, I’m already dead. (He laughs.)
A sister to her brother – I grow flowers and pick them up frequently. When I pick one, one grows back right away. And I’m so beautiful. I always wanted to be beautiful so now I can be.
A son to his father - I have the best music studio ever!
A brother to his sister – I’m hanging out as the sous chef for this amazing chef, and I’m creating a cookbook. I’m going to find someone on earth to write it for me.
An adult child to his parents (He died surfing.) – I’ve made it my mission to help surfers stay safe. So far I’ve saved three surfers from bad accidents.
In each of these conversations, as in all my Other Side connections, I felt no judgment or despair coming from the deceased. They each held a deep love for themselves and immense appreciation for their understanding of their mistakes.
Also, through my experiences with our Other Side friends, I’ve found that they all do what they want. If they always wanted to do something or have something that they didn’t do or have while on earth, they do or have that on the Other Side.
It is my sincerest hope that “Live from the Deceased” has helped you with your questions.
Know that your deceased loved one loves you and wants only what’s best for you
Much love to you and yours,
Gloria
Thank you 🙏
Your experience/words are so comforting. Thank you Gloria. Love you🥰